Why You Need to Get To Know Yourself to Become the Best Version of Yourself
How well do you know yourself? What do you think the primary thing is that’s holding you back from being the best version of yourself?
I will bet that a big part of what’s holding you back is your own sense of self. In other words: you might well be limited by your attachment to the ‘old you’ and by your fear of change.
Why Consistency is Over-Rated
We don’t want to do something that is ‘out of character’ and we don’t want to go back on things we’ve said. We like the sense of continuity that this brings and other people like the fact that they know where they stand with us.
We all have an attachment to who we think we are. We all have a notion of ourselves and of who others think we are as well. For example: you may see yourself as someone lighthearted who is never serious. Or perhaps you see yourself as being a local at heart, who supports the local sports team and who would never leave home.
But is this really something you should cling to? Maybe your concept of ‘you’ is outdated?
Adaptability is Key
Adaptability is the most important trait when it comes to surviving and thriving. The world will change around you and you will find yourself disappearing if you can’t adapt.
Have you ever told someone the way you felt and then changed your mind, only to then feel that you can’t go back on what you said?
Have you ever wanted to dress differently, or take a sudden serious tone, but felt enormous pressure from people’s expectations of you?
Biologically, there is no continuity. The person you are now is biologically completely different from the person you were 10 years ago. Who you are right now will be different biologically in 10 years.
The truest version of ‘you’ is simply the ‘you’ that you naturally want to be. The best way to be ‘you’ is to drop all expectations and simply act in the moment based on your emotions and your feelings.
Here Are Four Powerful Ways To Make Your Life More Meaningful
If you don’t know who you are, life can start to seem a little empty and pointless. Nevertheless, this is exactly how many of us live: we work for eight hours or more a day and then we come home feeling too tired and exhausted to do much of anything with our time. We watch and sit TV.
The same thing repeats and repeats and the most excitement we have is a holiday once a year to look forward to. Is that really living?
Here are four simple changes that can make your life more meaningful while getting to know the real you:
Constantly learning is a great way to give life more meaning and direction. Ultimately, one of the things that the brain craves most is growth. If it isn’t challenged to grow and learn, then it will shrink and we will become set in our ways.
Make it your job to constantly be learning new skills and pursuits. That can be related to your career, a hobby, or even a new language!
Relationships are one of the things that we really need to be happy. If you don’t have meaningful relationships, then you’ll have no one to share your experiences, your challenges and your triumphs with.
A truly ‘meaningful’ relationship goes beyond friends of friends that you only ever meet in a group. This is someone that you can have a deep heart-to-heart with and who has a long and storied history with you.
Challenge and to some extent, risk makes one’s life pretty exciting. Not everyone considers the same thing challenging. While some people are thrill seekers, others like the challenge of starting a business or meeting new people.
Challenges can help you appreciate more of the blessings that you have in your life. It puts things in perspective and creates inspirational stories. Don’t shy away from the things that test you!
Finally, everyone should seek to have some travel in their lives. This doesn’t mean you have to backpack across the dessert, but simply being able to experience new sights and new people is important to keep your mind open and your experiences varied. If you don’t have the budget to go away, then come up with an adventure you can enjoy a little closer to home.
When we spend our lives merely surviving, life can start to seem a little empty and pointless. Constantly learning is a great way to give life more meaning and direction. Ultimately, one of the things that the brain craves most is growth. Everyone should seek to have get to know themselves.