Complaining is a sign of Fear
How often do you hear people complaining about the things they fear? Pick a topic: love, friendship, careers, finances, business, etc.. The list of issues that we tend to complain about is endless. Perhaps we don’t complain about each of these things but more than likely there is something that you complain about regularly because you actually fear it.
“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” — Les Brown
Now, sometimes complaints are simply a way to vent some frustration at the moment. It may not be based in fear but of real frustrations going on around you and within yourself. When we find things difficult we complain.
“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.”
— Seneca the Younger
If I had a dollar for every time I heard one someone complain about the difficulty of finding a spouse, I would be a millionaire. When you have difficulty finding a spouse simply check your fears. You might be going out on dates and trying to maintain an active social life, however if you hold yourself off emotionally, your efforts won’t work.
A number of people have been hurt in the past, but if you don’t learn where you went wrong in past relations, you will repeat the same. Of course, you can’t make your new love interest pay for what your previous relationship partner did either. You need balance.
There might be someone, somewhere, but you could also be missing out on relationships, at least friendships, with some really great people simply because you are too afraid to care.
We all know that love is marvelous but it is also frightening, however we have to take risks in order to experience it fully. Sometimes we might get hurt however more often than not we will find the rewards outweigh the risks. There is no guarantee that if you open yourself up and dare to love that you will find the love of your life, however there is certainly a guarantee that a life filled with love is more rewarding than one that is not.
So think about the difficulties in your own life. Are you too afraid to overcome them, or are you ready to live fearless life?